For those who fight for it,
Life has a flavour the sheltered will never know.
We are infinitely evolving.
Nothing about our existence can truly be broken down into checkpoints, as much as we’d love to believe it could be logged in a pretty Excel spreadsheet. Nope.
In truth, one experience just leads us to our next experience. One moment connects to the next moment, which leads us to some opportunity, from which we may build strength, or let go, or heal – and moves us on to something new. On and on. We make baby steps until we look behind us and see progress. There is no use standing in darkness, worrying about what lies behind the walls ahead, when we know that there’s light on the other side.
So then, we decide to l e t g o and slide the first toe forward. Our journey begins and it goes on like this, one step at a time. We can set goals for ourselves. There can be a natural beginnings and resolutions, lightbulbs and milestones, but nothing really comes to an end. It’s not linear.
When it comes to this kind of growth, we can work hard on the trajectory, but we don’t control every facet of our transformation. That’s why making meaningful changes is
sometimes often a painstakingly slow and frustrating process.
Window by window, we open.
Petal by petal, unfolding.
When we get too close to the fire, we get burned. When we get burned, it hurts. When we feel pain, we recoil. We naturally pull away from what causes us pain and suffering.
Our brains are cool like that.
We learn from pain. We’ll keep ourselves away from the things that make us hurt. We’ll do anything it takes to keep ourselves safe, even if it means avoiding all the things that could hurt. This includes all things that maybe, possibly, potentially could bring on that burn again. Things that could end up bringing great joy, love and enlightenment – Our minds view them as far too risky, too close to the fire. No, we must stay as far away from the fire as possible. Further. Safer.
To what end?
Essentially, we could fail at everything we do, lose everyone we love, find ourselves rejected at every turn. Or, we couldn’t. The risk in avoiding the things that make us afraid is the opportunity cost of passing up a potentially perfect outcome instead. The more we face our fears and even experience losses, the less scary and painful they become. The more happiness we can find. Peace inside. Safer.