We don’t have to push against nature to find joy. It wants to present itself to us on a path that requires the least effort.
Even after a harsh winter, when the ground is frozen and inanimate, the flowers do not struggle to blossom. They simply reach up and open their petals.
Much like how we can open ourselves up (easily, gracefully) to joy and peace, when we turn our awareness to the possibility of a perfect outcome. Instead of closing ourselves (painfully, rigidly) with fear and insecurity.
When we let go of the thoughts that keep us stuck, the direction of our lives will unfold for us with effortless ease.
To practice gratitude means more to me than counting my blessings at night before I fall asleep.
You cannot selectively numb feelings. You cannot decide to shut some of them out without blocking everything altogether in the process. Joy. Connection. Comfort. It’s easy to learn how to know things – anyone can do that. But you cannot be taught how to feel.
In those moments of true feeling, I am grateful.
I am being nobody else in a world trying its hardest to make me everybody-but-me. In those moments of fear and vulnerability, when I wonder if I can really love this fiercely? Believe in this so passionately?
To stop and just say instead: I am so grateful. Because to feel this vulnerable means that I’m alive.
This is the fifth post in an ongoing blog series, featuring some practical tools and activities. Fill up your arsenal and collect your weapons for recovery.
I’d guess that less than 10% of us handle potential emergencies in a rational and calm state of mind. The rest experience something else that doesn’t quite make for the most efficient response – overwhelming panic, nauseous anxiety, stunned shock, blinding confusion, even more blinding denial, or some other lovely category along those lines.
I’ve always heard that slips and setbacks aren’t just possible, but they’re expected along this path on which we’ve been placed.
We can bounce back from adversity or be consumed by it. The survivors will walk away with more personal strength, character and resilience, and a heavier toolbox for future attacks.
Some succinct tips to help keep your head above the water:
Shake off the stunned brain freeze as soon as you can
Don’t waste time on blame and shame
Be gentle with yourself as you come to acceptance
Rally your support troops and call 9/11 on yourself
Take account of your current situation and how it’s both similar and different to what you’ve known before
Collect every tool you have and search for new ones